“Children Must Be Heard Too” — Chief Pereama Sends Strong Message on Parenting, Fair Hearing in Ijaw Nation
By Passman Akpos
A respected voice in the Niger Delta, a prominent Ijaw Traditional Musician, Chief Pereama of Freetown, has stirred fresh conversation across communities with a thought-provoking message urging parents and elders to balance discipline with understanding.
In a statement rooted in biblical teaching, Chief Pereama referenced the scripture, “Children, obey your parents in the Lord,” stressing that while obedience remains a moral cornerstone, the responsibility of fairness lies equally with parents and leaders in society.
He noted that youthful rebellion often leads to tension within families and communities, but warned against dismissing young people without first listening to them. According to him, experience teaches parents to endure and guide, not to alienate.
Using a vivid analogy, he recounted a story of a young pig questioning its mother about her appearance, only to be told that understanding comes with age—a reflection, he said, of how wisdom develops over time and should be patiently passed down.
Chief Pereama also condemned extreme reactions by some parents who disown or disinherit children over misconduct. He emphasized that correction must always be paired with compassion, saying, “When you beat a child with your left hand, you draw him back with your right.”
Drawing from religious history, he cited the story of Adam, noting that even in disobedience, God granted him the opportunity to speak before judgment was passed—highlighting what he described as the universal principle of fair hearing.
“The principle of fair hearing must be upheld at all levels—between parents and children, masters and servants, and even among peers,” he said, warning that failure to listen can breed unnecessary conflict and division.
The message has resonated widely, particularly among youth groups and community leaders in the Niger Delta, with many describing it as a timely reminder of the need for dialogue, patience, and mutual respect in family and societal relationships.
Chief Pereama concluded his remarks with a blessing for the Ijaw Nation, calling for unity and understanding across generations.
